You’ve just found out that your spouse has been cheating on you in a long term affair. To make matters worse, he tells you that he wants a divorce.
Furious, you immediately go on Facebook to vent your anger with your closest friends. Is this a wise move?
Probably not. Even if you restrict the number of people who can see your postings, it’s best to keep these matters off social media.
Here are some types of postings that could later come back to hurt a spouse in divorce proceedings:
This posting might not help a mother’s later fight to show that she should be awarded primary custody.
Each person in a divorce will have a duty to fully disclose assets. If the “secret” bank account is not disclosed, there will be severe consequences.
Statements such as this can negatively impact many aspects of a divorce. It can show that the writer is unbalanced, and clearly of the “revenge” mindset, which could indicate that restraining orders might be warranted. As with the first statement, it could also indicate that the writer should not have custody of the children.
While this may be true, how will a court view this disclosure of personal information? What if another parent tells their children about the statement, leading to Johnny being taunted at school?
Parents certainly share personal information with other close friends (usually who are also parents) in an effort to learn information about how to solve problems that they may be having with their children. But doing so during a divorce is not the time to make a written, public record of information, which can only hurt the writer.
Before You Post, Consider the Impact
Certainly factually neutral statements on social media will be acceptable, such as:
Because these types of communications are simple facts, and thus cannot be used against a person. This information is not harmful to the other spouse or to children. Beyond simple facts, it’s best to leave off all details and especially opinions. When in doubt, leave it out.